Shoulding...

I recently received some good coaching which called out the amount of times I said the word should. Of course, I didn't even realize I was doing it but since then I keep catching it flying out of my mouth. I should call her. I should lose some weight. I should get to that list of stuff on my to-do this.

Apparently, I am a should addict!

So what does this mean? Well, it means that I've gotten myself caught up in a shame loop. Keeping myself down about all of the things I'm not doing instead of recognizing the things I am doing with my time. If I am telling myself that I should get to the gym but I AM working my way through a half gallon of ice cream...that's saying something. 

I know I'm not alone in this. We all do it. We tell ourselves that we're being conscious in our decision making by outwardly saying we know what the "right" thing to do would be, but then we go ahead and do the "wrong" thing right after.

The truth is, there is no universal "right" or "wrong", LIFE is only what happens in the exact moment it is happening. Shaming ourselves about decisions we made yesterday or talking about decisions we'll make tomorrow are just negative thoughts keeping us further from dreams.  

If you know that you SHOULD be doing something and yet it's not happening, stop beating yourself up about why it hasn't happened and ask yourself what is the next step to get you closer.